Dear Baby Girl,
You are already so loved from the constant attention that your big brother gives you (sorry for all those noisy raspberries and smooshes!) and the non-stop hands on my belly from your Mummy and far. It is so nice to be able to feel you now, to know that you are growing stronger every day.
Before we found out you were a girl I was very nervous, I didn’t think we’d be lucky enough to have one of each and then when we did find out we were that lucky I got doubly nervous. What was I going to do with a girl? Obviously your wardrobe would be over flowing but how would you bond with your brother? I had no idea about that I’d only grown up with a little sister – hopefully there won’t be as much fighting!
Now I’ve had time to let it sink in, I’m excited. Sure parenting you won’t be that different in the early stages compared to your brother – although being the second child I think you’ll have an easier ride!
I don’t know why but I’m sure you’re going to be a little fire-cracker and I’m excited. I want you to be passionate about life and achieving your dreams. I don’t want you to catch my homebody issues (until you become a teenager that is!). I want you to always be respectful and willing to help people out. You will always have the world at your finger tips my gorgeous girl.
I never want you to worry about your body even if people tease you just turn the other cheek. No one has power over you when it comes to your looks and how you feel about yourself. Besides you’re half Scandinavian you lucky thing! Beauty really does come from the inside and if you look like a supermodel more power to you but never ever act like you deserve it, always be humble. And, if you don’t look like a supermodel so what! One day you are going to light up someone’s room (other than everyone who already loves you) and I want you to remember that feeling for the rest of your life.
I don’t want you to be defined by your gender, anything your brother can do you can to – unless it’s illegal or mean! If you don’t want to follow the traditional uni route and would rather go down the tradie route that’s all ok with me! Heck if you want to live in a commune go for it! I just want you to be happy. I hope the world stops seeing gender as a problem by the time you are older or that your generation is the turning point!
Most of all Baby Girl I want you to know you are so loved already and in those moments when we fight like cat and dog and swear we hate each other – neither of us will mean it. If you take after me we are going to have some doozies but we’ll always pull through and if you ever want to runaway let me know ahead of time and I’ll let you have your escape I promise – I know how hard it is to go into battle and wage war (figuratively speaking) and I promise to give you space. Just remember that I love you and that will never end no matter what.
This letter is a bit all over the place but that’s what life is all about never knowing where you’re going to wind up.
All my love,